Brett Berk

One day out of the whole freaking year is not enough for the nation’s mommies. So the Gay Uncle is officially endorsing the idea that Mother’s Day be turned into a WEEKEND LONG CELEBRATION. This will give moms time to accomplish all of the things that are required of them during the holiday: Being taken out to a very expensive dinner; Receiving numerous bouquets of gorgeous flowers; “Relaxing”; Pretending to enjoy the rubbery eggs or pancakes that the kids cooked themselves for breakfast-in-bed; Pretending to enjoy the idea of eating in your bed at all; Having sloppy sex with the partner of your choosing; Picking crumbs of rubbery eggs or pancakes off your back after the sloppy sex; Getting a professional back-rub (not one of those sucky, one-handed, one-minute jobs family members dole out as if they’re doing you a favor); Sleeping in; Skipping the kids’ t-ball game to have a champagne lunch with the girls; Watching a greatest hits clip of all the best movie makeovers; Doing the laundry.

CONTEST: Let Gunc know how many of the items from this list you receive this Mother’s Weekend. The mommy with the most wins a free autographed copy of the book. The mommy with the least receives a free snarky scolding email sent by G.U. directly to their partner and/or children (for real!)

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The Gay Uncle had a strange afternoon today. He was asked to participate in a photo shoot for an upcoming feature article about him and his book in The London Times. Selected as the location, was a children’s hair salon up the street from his apartment. The place itself was lovely, as were its owner and its “stylists” (one of whom was recruited by the effervescent photographer as his assistant.) Of course the clientele was adorable as well–fancy little West Village kids who watched distracting videos while receiving a trim. The weird part came when G.U. was asked to pose. First he had to straddle a tiny wooden race car barber chair, while blowing bubbles, kicking up his feet, and smiling broadly. (You think pilates is hard on your “core”? Try this!) Then he had to sit on a Big Wheel on a ledge in the store window while the photographer waited on the sidewalk to capture the perfect reflection of a passing yellow cab (and avoid the reflections of preening be-shorted and tanktopped queens out for a spring stroll.) Then for the final act, Gunc had to squat in the street atop a pink, kid-sized, rubber, bouncy rabbit toy, again smiling broadly, and clutching at the bunny’s ears, while cars and bike messengers whizzed by inches from his head. He felt like a character in a Harmony Korine movie.

The G.U. wants to give a big shout out to Dana and the staff at Doodle Doo’s. [sic.] If you live in New York (or plan to visit), you should give them a call very soon…before your child goes full-force Rapunzel. 212-627-DOOS (3667) Be sure to tell them the Gay Uncle sent you.

The Gay Uncle is at his house upstate today, enjoying a writers’ retreat with his boyfriend Tal. Occasionally, they get up from the computer and go outside. This affords G.U. the opportunity to wander around in something called “nature”. At this time of year–the season of regeneration and rebirth–it also allows him to view animal babies. He never took biology in high school, so he’s not at all sure how geese or fish or turtles reproduce (nor does he really want to know: all that feathery/scaly/shelly fucking? Ew!) but suddenly their children are everywhere. He supposes there’s something sort of pleasant about this intractable cycle, and he’s always happy to see the newborn goslings and fishlings and turtlings flopping around in the lake, attempting to learn to breathe or swim while their parents float blithely nearby avoiding the spectacle, sunning themselves or eating mud. (Just like a New York City playground!) But, he can’t help but think of the wee ones’ vulnerability. A few springs ago, the goose homestead was attacked by an eagle, and he and Tal had to watch as the big raptor dive-bombed the nest. Another problem G.U. cites with baby geese (aside from their propensity to poo on his dock) is the inevitability of their becoming what he calls “teenagers”. Anyone who’s read a nursery rhyme knows goose infants are super-cute and cuddly, but they grow so goddamn fast that they go through their awkward adolescent phase within like a week, and get all disproportionate and mangy (think, Chelsea Clinton in the White House years). Gunc supposes this happens to fish and turtles too, but they fortunately remain invisible to him under the water.

Next nature report: Baby Beavers Look Like they’re made of Leather!

It’s spring in New York, which means that–in addition to newborn rats, gay men in tank tops, and stagnant rain puddles full of wilting cardboard–another scourge is once again rearing its ugly head: adults on Razor Scooters. The Gay Uncle does not know how this trend began. He had a parent friend who once described her scooter as a way of “escaping the city in case of another terrorist attack”. Imagining her kick-pushing through the Holland Tunnel, he told her that he wasn’t sure that was the best plan. But Gunc is absolutely certain of one thing: every adult who rides one of these looks like a complete a-hole. If you’re a grown-up scooterer and you don’t believe him, just follow this simple test: Check your reflection in the window of the next store you pass. See yourself? Notice something important? YOU ARE NOT EIGHT! (And you look like an a-hole.) G.U. believes that these items are now recyclable. Just fold up the scooter, and toss it in the blue bin. It will serve the world much better as a Coke can.

Lying in bed this morning, but not wanting to break the spell of sleep and lug himself downstairs to the toilet, the Gay Uncle was reminded of an as of yet un-blogged about event that took place during his trip to Los Angeles last month. He and his boyfriend Tal had gone for a walk in Griffith Park with their close friend Dylan and his 5 year old son, Max. Somewhere along the way, they’d taken a wrong turn and gotten lost, and ended up wandering the streets of an adjacent neighborhood, trying to find their way back. Max became tired, and Dylan agreed to carry him on his shoulders. Having brought no provisions, and concerned for the boy’s ongoing hydration, Dylan soon stopped under a tangerine tree, resplendent with fruit. (These kinds of things pop up frequently in L.A.) Though Dylan is truly tall (standing at about 6’6″) even atop this friendly giant, the best citrus remained just out of the boy’s reach, and each one he selected appeared mealy or rotted or bug infested. Max began tossing the unsavory oranges away from him and, since the team was located mid way along one of the neighborhood’s many hills, the little balls of California sunshine bounced, rolled, and crashed into and under all manner of things–trash cans, old Saabs, front decks, cats. This was hilarious to everyone, no one more so than Max, who began giggling and guffawing uncontrollably with each additional toss. Gunc–always a fan of non-pain-inducing object tossing–encouraged him. But unbeknownst to the G.U., the boy has a hair trigger bladder, and all this hilarity and laughter seemed to set it off, and he was soon dampening his father’s deltoids (and clavicles and scapulae) with urine. Dylan took it in stride, not even yanking the boy down as the drip began to penetrate his T-shirt. “This always happens,” he said.

The Gay Uncle read two interesting details in a recent magazine article about traditional clans in New Guinea. He’s not sure yet how to put them together into his typical scathing indictment of contemporary American parenting, but they were just too juicy to let fly past without note, so he decided to post them here. Think of this as a kind of deep storage room for metaphors.

1) In the New Guinea Highlands, uncles play an extremely important role in raising children, so much so that nephews often don’t differentiate between them and their biological fathers. When an uncle is killed, his death is strongly mourned, and must be avenged.

2) In this same culture, pigs are important representations of status and wealth, so much so that when a new piglet is born, it is given an individual name, and sometimes allowed to suckle at a woman’s free breast when she’s nursing her own infant.

If you have any anecdotes that might fit with either of these bits–revered uncles, unexpected forms of breastfeeding, revered uncles unexpectedly breastfeeding–let fly in Comments below. Maybe it can be like one of those vocabulary assignments G.U. used to receive from his seventh grade English teacher (name: Eddie Eugene Elgoode, he kids you not) in which he’d have to merge a list of unrelated words into some kind of cohesive narrative. Could be fun!

It’s Canadian Appreciation Week here at Gay Uncle headquarters. First the Globe and Mail runs a stellar review of G.U.’s book; then, the number of Canadian visitors to the site soars, trumping the number of U.S. visitors for the first time ever; and finally, he finds this beautiful photo of Canadian flag on google.ca. As a way of celebrating, he’s decided to include a link to a Canadian-type bookseller from whom his neighbors to the north can order his book without dealing with overseas shipping charges. Go, Canada!

While visiting his family in Key West this past weekend, The Gay Uncle had the pleasure of running into his sister Roxy’s good friend A-M and her adorable children. You may remember A-M from one of G.U.’s earliest posts. If you do (or if you just snuck back to read it) you’ll recall that she was the nice lady who hadn’t yet come up with a name for her four month old son. Rest assured, the boy now has a name: Jorrdan He also has what might be the most amazing head that Gunc has ever seen. It’s perfectly spherical, devoid of hair, and is roughly the size and shape of one of your larger supermarket honeydews, placing little Jorrdan squarely in the 30,000th percentile for head circumference in the under-one-year-old category. Now, you may not be aware of this, but the G.U. is no stranger to super-skulls. He’s been known for his own planet-sized hat-holster ever since he was a child, when his nickname was (he kids you not) “The Wrecking Ball”. But though the colossal capper on wee Jorrdan has delayed the boy from learning to crawl properly (top heaviness literally forcing him to drag his sizable nugget around) and now requires the boy to attend physical therapy (to learn special deltoid-enhancing neck exercises so he can be the stick to this lollipop), A-M absolutely adores the idea that her youngest is big headed–now, at least; birth was another story. “It means his brain is super-sized too!” she said in her distinctive Long Island drawl. But while mommy’s proud, Jorrdan’s nine year old sister is very protective of Little Mr. Mega-Noggin, and doesn’t take lightly to people poking fun of him, mistaking him for a wind ravaged coconut palm, or pointing and shouting, “For the love of god, lie that child down; he’s blocking out the sun!” So in response to the girl’s sensitivity, A-M has asked that, in her daughter’s presence, folks either avoid the subject (impossible) or simply say that he has a “significant cranium”. A sensible and kindly request that everyone will no doubt abide. Everyone, that is, except the Gay Uncle. So this post goes out to tiny Jor and his Brobdingnagian brain-pan. Join the club, kid. Big Heads rule!

The Gay Uncle has fumed about it many times, but it was only this morning that he finally realized his true feelings: Signing to your baby is stupid! He’s sure that other people have loads of good reasons why it’s useful and beneficial and necessary, but here’s his anti-infant-ASL rationale:

1) Your baby has very little of interest to say that you don’t already know (I’m dirty, More milk, I’m dirty)
2) You look like an asshole when you’re doing it
3) There’s certain thoughts to which we just shouldn’t have access. For example, when they taught a captive gorilla sign language, one of the first things she said was “I’m sad because the hunters took my baby away.”